Dear Desiree,
Let me start off by saying that you aren’t wrong and you aren’t really a judgmental person – you’re just naïve and slightly ignorant. I once heard that there is no more a judgmental mother than the 20-something, newly married, not yet a mom. I’d have to disagree with that statement. I think there is no more a judgmental mother than a first time mom of a baby under 2.
I get where your head is right now, I understand that everything is new and there is a lot you don’t know and this causes you a lot of anxiety and stress. You often wonder: Am I a good mom? Is this normal? Is he eating enough, sleeping enough, playing enough, pooping enough, getting enough socialization? Is a 18 month old supposed to know how to read? What age should I start potty training? Is my kid average, below average, genius? And so many more unknown, anxiety ridden questions it’s slightly mind boggling. I get that you cope with this anxiety of the unknown by comparing yourself and your child to others. And by comparing yourself and your kid to others you judge. You JudgyMcJudgerston you.
This letter to you is to make you feel better, relieve some stress and let you know that in fact –it is not all going to be ok.
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